Love Spells vs. Self-Love Spells: Why You Should Choose the Latter
Ah, love spells—the classic go-to when hearts ache, desires burn, and we find ourselves reaching for a little extra magic to bring romance our way. But before you start collecting red candles and chanting under the moonlight, let’s talk about a different kind of magic. A spell so powerful, so transformative, that it doesn’t just attract love—it radiates it from within.
Enter: Self-Love Spells.
If you’ve ever thought about casting a love spell to draw in a specific someone, what you’re really craving isn’t them—it’s the feeling you believe they will bring you. Passion. Security. Belonging. But here’s the twist: the most potent magic happens when you cultivate those feelings within yourself first. Instead of sending out spells begging for love, why not become the love you seek?
The Problem with Love Spells
Love spells aimed at another person have been around forever, but let’s be real—they come with their share of messy energy. At their core, they attempt to influence another’s free will, which disrupts the natural flow of energy. Ever heard of love spells backfiring? That’s usually why. If someone isn’t meant for you, or if the spell forces something unnatural, the universe has a way of setting things right—often in ways you won’t expect.
Even if a love spell "works," it can leave you feeling unsatisfied. Because if love has to be conjured, manipulated, or forced—it won’t truly feel like yours. And you, gorgeous soul, deserve the kind of love that flows naturally, effortlessly, and with a deep sense of alignment.
Why Self-Love Spells Are the Ultimate Love Magic
Now, let’s talk about the spells that always work—the ones that magnetise love to you without the need to chase, convince, or manipulate. Self-love spells.
These are the spells that root you in your worth, wrap you in confidence, and align your energy with the most beautiful frequency of all—unconditional love. And when you embody love, guess what? Love finds you. Effortlessly. Magnetically.
How to Cast a Self-Love Spell
Want to weave a little self-love magic into your life? Here’s a simple yet potent self-love spell to shift your energy and call in the love you truly crave.
A Simple Self-Love Ritual
🔮 You’ll need:
A pink candle (for love & compassion)
Rose quartz (for heart healing)
A mirror
A journal
✨ The Ritual:
Light your pink candle and hold your rose quartz to your heart. Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Feel love expanding from your heart like a warm, golden glow.
Look into the mirror. Gaze into your own eyes, the way you would a lover. Whisper affirmations:
I am worthy of deep, unconditional love.
I radiate beauty, confidence, and joy.
Love flows to me because I am love.
Write in your journal: What does the most loved version of you look like? How does she feel? What does she no longer tolerate?
Blow out the candle, sending gratitude into the universe. Carry your rose quartz with you as a reminder of your spell’s energy.
💖 The Magic of Choosing Yourself
The difference between love spells and self-love spells is this - One seeks love outside of you. The other, awakens the love already within you. And when you choose yourself first, the world mirrors that back to you in the most divine and unexpected ways.
So, my love, instead of casting a spell for them, cast a spell for you. Fall deeply, wildly, and unapologetically in love with yourself—because that’s the kind of magic that lasts forever.
🌙 With love & a sprinkle of magic,
Nicci ✨💋
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